He's Ambitious, She's a bitch.

"Let's face it, there's just one word that our culture bestows on that supremely ambitious woman who unrepentantly values success in her career: bitch. Ambitious men are go-getters, but ambitious women are bitches." - Ambitchous by Debra Condren.

If a man is assertive, he is ambitious. If a woman is assertive, she’s called a bitch.

Think about it.

A successful employee has to a go-getter, aggressive, persistent, direct, resilient, confident, proactive, team player, confronts, supervises, communicates, etc…..But now add a male or female noun to that and the context changes a bit: “He’s aggressive, direct—a real go getter.” “She’s aggressive, direct--- God, I hate her.”

Haha, you can almost hear the tone in each of the sentences.

Back in freshman year of college, I read Ambitchous in my Business 100 class for an assignment in which you were to select a business-related material and write your final paper on a topic of the book. Reading the book at 19, only having a small amount of work experience (babysitting, tutoring and administrative assistant at a Probate Law firm) the book made a large impact on my outlook of an employee in the corporate/business world. Although the book has a taste of that negative stereotypical “feminism” the subject matter is greatly substantial.
Condren advises women on how to be contenders, surround themselves with powerful advice, get paid what they're worth, be responsible to themselves, disable detractors, how to network and even how to deal with snide remarks like “Someone’s on the rag!”

Hell, I know that quote will definitely be thrown at me one day. I have no problem admitting: Im a bitch. But see, I don’t see that as a bad thing. I see it exactly as this book defines it.

amBITCHous: (def.) A Woman Who: 1. Makes more money 2. has more power 3. gets the recognition she deserves 4. has the determination to go after her dreams and can do it with intregrity.

At least that is the goal.

Now I don’t mean to come off as a feminist (in the negative sense of the word, of course= believe me, just cause Im female doesn’t mean I want extra attention or sensitivity. I don’t feel like a victim. And I agree, some jobs women should just not do, because a man would do a better job. And vice versa.

Anyways, Im rambling. Here are two interesting articles that tie into this post.

http://community.feministing.com/2008/11/bitch.html from a male prospective.

However, here are 39 jobs where women make more than men. http://money.cnn.com/2006/02/28/commentary/everyday/sahadi_paytable/index.html